Mammabear
THE BEAR
POWER, PERSPECTIVE, AND BALANCE
For thousands of years, human beings have looked upon the bear and seen two very different truths and the difference never lay with the bear itself, but with the eyes of the one who watched.
To Indigenous nations across many lands, the bear was never a monster, nor merely a wild beast. It was known as Medicine Bear a sacred relative, a guardian, and a teacher of healing and rest.
They recognised in it a power that was not chaotic, but contained.
The bear hibernates as it draws its energy inward, binds it, rests deeply, and emerges renewed.
This was not retreat, it was essential.
It showed that great strength does not have to be spent wildly, it can be held, ordered, and restored.
The bear stood for safety, a protector of children, keeper of balance, a symbol that power itself is neutral.
it only feels dangerous when we do not yet have the capacity to meet it.
Then came a different way of seeing.
As Western thought began to split the world into sharp, fixed labels good or evil, safe or dangerous, the bear was reduced to a single story, a wild threat.
It became the symbol of everything uncontrollable, overwhelming, and frightening. This was not a discovery of the bear’s true nature, only a reflection of our own limitation.
When our understanding, our filters, and our ability to “bind excitation” were still weak, the bear’s natural power felt like an attack. We called it a villain because we could not yet hold its energy.
As Alan Moore , writer genius, ( V for Vendetta) teaches us, NOTHING is only what it appears to be.
The hero and the villain are not fixed identities, they are just names we give depending on where we stand and what we are able to "bear."
I call myself Mammabear and this duality is exactly what that means.
People expect only the soft, gentle, loving presence: the warmth, the comfort, the quiet care that holds space and soothes, which is true, but when my family, my children, or what I stand for is threatened, that same energy shifts.
It becomes focused, fierce, and unapologetic
A powerful, even chaotic release of protection when nothing else will do. It is not two different people, it is the same energy, bound when calm, unleashed when needed.
Neither side is wrong; both are part of the whole.
I had to protect and I had to hunt for information as the Platforms we have now did not exist for me for many years
We come full circle, today, we bring the bear back into our homes, not as a force to fear, but as LavenderBuddy for the children, that carries the same ancient symbol of strength, now shaped to meet the nervous system, sensory system, body and brain, exactly where it is.
For us ,with knowledge ,as parents, especially for the Mothers who should be there to Tend and Befriend, not in fight or flight. Oestrogen gives us a deeper sensitivity to Oxytocin, the hug hormone.
I stopped reacting to the chaos and found the knowledge I needed, I am now here
I was not always like this, I had to work hard at it
let me share that knowledge with you so you do not have to fight, run or hunt.
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